What have I already been doing well?

There are at least three things that I have been doing well

1-Identifying possible problems
Since long time ago, I have the abilities to understand what my problems. For example, I know that my greatest desire seems to be the acceptance of all people. As a result, I only work on things that I get praises from and I get upset when I don’t get the praises or I get critics instead.

Now, I have also identified three problems. First, when I am depressed I am very harsh to myself. Second, when I am angry, I could not control my emotion and demands to others. Third, my behaviours keep changing as I act based on my feelings which are not consistent

2-Discovering potential strategies to address the problems
With the help of family, counsellor, and friends, I have discovered three types of strategies. First is to monitor my feelings, to be aware of my feelings. I can use speedometer to be aware of my feeling and then write for 5 mins to be aware of my thoughts. Second is to postpone doing things purely based on feelings. In other word, test my intention with test of time. Third is to set up clear goals and prioritise  the goals

3-Ability to step back and get back up
Discovering the strategies does not help much if I don’t apply. Usually it is hard for me to apply when I am emotional. But there are times where I can step back, look at the situations, acknowledge my feelings, and apply the right tools to address the situations.