I have just had a lunch with my best friend in office. He reminded me the importance of thinking. The reason is that I often think binary, either this or that. Either I follow all of what others say or I do not follow at all. Why I want to do something, I usually opt the easier way of because someone told me to do so. I have not reached the deeper level of why else I want to do it. Or if it is entirely up to me or I am alone, why do I want to do it.
Both my strength and weakness is that I often do things based on habit. In those situations, I do not think. For example, I used to wear double clothing when I run as it is in the evening or it is in the gym. But when I run in the morning under the hot sun, I still wear double clothing just because that is what I wear when running. In other words, my habit comes first, then perhaps some external factors, and last is my self-awareness.
Instead of treating it just as a weakness, I can also treat it as a strength. In specific, how can I have a habit of thinking what is the reason I do something if it is entirely up to me. Perhaps once it becomes a habit, it will be easier for me to do it and in overcoming the tendency not to think and just do. It is often either I think too much or just do it without thinking. How can I incorporate a habit thinking so that I do not overthink and still putting some thoughts at the same time.
A good example is the set of questions that help me to filter whether I want to share. The three questions are: “does this need to be shared?”, “does this need to be shared now?”, does this need to be shared by me?” In other word, it is questioning “why does this need to be shared by me now?”. So the habit of thinking that I want to develop is “why do I do this?”, “why do I feel this”, “why do I think this?”?
To start with, I can ask myself, why this and not that? Since I am good at binary thinking, I can start with asking why now and not later? Or why later and not do it now? Then it can vary such as why blue, not green, and red? So it is not necessary the negation of something as the alternative. Later on, it can develop to more open-ended question.
The more important is the goal which is to help me to be self-aware of my feelings and actions instead of just following my emotions.
Both my strength and weakness is that I often do things based on habit. In those situations, I do not think. For example, I used to wear double clothing when I run as it is in the evening or it is in the gym. But when I run in the morning under the hot sun, I still wear double clothing just because that is what I wear when running. In other words, my habit comes first, then perhaps some external factors, and last is my self-awareness.
Instead of treating it just as a weakness, I can also treat it as a strength. In specific, how can I have a habit of thinking what is the reason I do something if it is entirely up to me. Perhaps once it becomes a habit, it will be easier for me to do it and in overcoming the tendency not to think and just do. It is often either I think too much or just do it without thinking. How can I incorporate a habit thinking so that I do not overthink and still putting some thoughts at the same time.
A good example is the set of questions that help me to filter whether I want to share. The three questions are: “does this need to be shared?”, “does this need to be shared now?”, does this need to be shared by me?” In other word, it is questioning “why does this need to be shared by me now?”. So the habit of thinking that I want to develop is “why do I do this?”, “why do I feel this”, “why do I think this?”?
To start with, I can ask myself, why this and not that? Since I am good at binary thinking, I can start with asking why now and not later? Or why later and not do it now? Then it can vary such as why blue, not green, and red? So it is not necessary the negation of something as the alternative. Later on, it can develop to more open-ended question.
The more important is the goal which is to help me to be self-aware of my feelings and actions instead of just following my emotions.
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