Today I went to the gathering at my supervisor’s place and met both alumni and current research students and fellow. Afterwards, my wife and I met my high school friend with his friend. There are many insights from meeting them.
I can see many more examples of positive people despite the difficulties they have. Also to see that they are not perfect people and yet they do their best to react positively to the challenges in life which can be negative at least for me. Well, this also teaches me not to take things for granted. The same example of positivity is obvious in my wife. It may be because I see her everyday that I am used to it. My friend and colleagues are also positive and I may be used to them as well. Today it’s perhaps because I seldom meet them that make me to reflect.
The question is that what am I doing? They were also not sure of many things in life and yet they make the progress by taking the risk. They were also not perfect and made mistake. They did not follow what is supposed to be followed up. Some of them were late for the gathering. They also did not learn what they are supposed to learn such as the ideal pronunciation. But they were confident and they enjoyed what they have at the moment.
They were busy with many things and yet they could take the time off to gather. They worked hard for the things they believe? How about me? I usually say it’s because there is not enough time. But where are my time spent? Honestly, it seems to be spent for worrying things and regretting things that can no longer be changed. So I am busy spending time for regretting things and condemning myself.
Do I want to continue like that? The answer is of course not. So the question is that how much do I want to change? As said before, worrying things and regretting things have become my habit. So how much do I want to change to the habit of doing what we can and letting go what we cannot?
For example, realistically speaking, although I am reminded by this truth tonight, there will be other time where I fall again into negativity and concentrated on the things I cannot do at one shot or worrying things which may not happen or even if it happens, it does not actually matter. So if I am to learn to walk, how much do I want to walk that I will get up again when I fall?
How much also do I want to implement the tips I got today?
For example, one said to me that how can I say that I cannot do something that I even have not tried before?
Another said, always expect unexpected things to happen. Be flexible and things of other plans. Also, there is nothing wrong with farewell. We may come back in the future, we may not, it’s part of life. Jump first and face the subsequent things step by step.
Why worry of which one to do first. Just pick one and do them first.
We live in this imperfect world, so we cannot be perfectionist. We need to do things, let it go, seek feedback and then revise. That’s what my team lead said yesterday.
My pastor also said last night that all challenges are within our abilities. Also, we tend to want people think we have the greatest struggle while it is not true.
There was also somebody told me that they thought I am a positive person. My wife also told me that I tend to look for insights from others while there are many insights already within me. So it is more of being confident and implement. If we think it is correct, we can save time of the double checking and do something more worthwhile.
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