Identifying Differences

Last Monday I learned about identifying differences. First, there is difference between thoughts and feeling. Feeling is something that can be described by one word. So if I start to explain things, that is not feeling but they are thoughts. For example, I could not concentrate, my mind keep switching is thought whereas nervous, anxious, stressed are feelings.

Secondly, there are differences between main problem and secondary problem. I have an anxiety challenge which apparently I mixed up into one where they actually consist of two different things. The first anxiety comes from the main issue itself, for example whether I can do a task or complete a slide. The irrational beliefs are something like I must do it well, I must not make mistake, it must be perfect, etc. The second anxiety is triggered when I felt anxious. Instead of accepting, I have another layer of irrational belief such as I must not feel anxious or I must be positive at once, if I cannot change now, then I will never be able to change.

It is important to address the secondary anxiety first. This is to ensure that we allow enough room and space to change. To convince myself that changing ourselves takes time. So it is fine if there are ups and downs. Then we can devote more energy to address the main source of anxiety itself.

This shows that I need to learn to break down things into steps. But then again, I need to ensure that I do not force myself to achive that skill now but instead learn to practice of breaking things down into bit-sized actions.