It may be a deception when you say you are doing it for someone

In a film called FAN with Shah Rukh Khan, the young Gaurav worshipped his idol, Aryan to the point that he beated another artist who tricked Aryan to a problem. The young Gaurav insisted that he is doing it for Aryan and therefore Aryan should appreciate his wrong doing.

That is a good portrayal of what we, or at least, I have been doing. I often say I do this for God where it is actually for my ego and impulsiveness. There are many times as well where I try to do things that I thought I am helping my wife while actually my act made things worse. In office, I also often portray myself as someone loyal and dream to maintain the original vision laid by the founder, again claiming for the sake of the company and its people.

The question is how do we know that we are not deceiving ourselves? How do we know that what we think is good is really good for God, for someone we love, or organization or country?

Or is it that we just want to use that as an excuse of our immaturity? That we don’t want to take the responsibility ourselves. There is a saying that sincerity is not enough. That is because it is hard to know what someone really want. So do we spend enough time to understand what is really needed?

Often we bypass that difficult process and replace it with our idealism of what should be good for others. I am lazy to find it out more. I am also reluctant to acknowledge that my perception may and can be wrong.

So the next time I say it again, let’s be careful, let’s ask deeper on what is our intention. So at least when we still do that, we can say that we are doing it for ourselves and not for the sake of others; acknowledging that we can’t read people’s mind. And at the end, we need to make sure that we can help ourselves progressing as we try to help by giving what we can and not what we cannot give.