3 Things for 2019

There are at least three things for this new year: manage my expectations, set the right priority, and set clear goals that are good enough. 

First, let’s manage my expectations to myself and others. When my expectations to myself was too high, I was depressed. When I am high, I have either hidden or displayed high expectations to others from my wife, my parents-in law, my helper, my colleagues, my friends. It seems to be binary, either I don’t expect at all or I expect very high. Let’s balance that in the healthy range. 

Second, set the right priority. Initially I wanted to say choose the right priority. But the truth is that most of the time I did not even stop to list down what are the possible priorities and then selected. I just go with the flow especially based on my feeling. I also tend to help others and not do the tasks of my own responsibilities. 

Third, set clear goals that are good enough based on the set and selected priorities. Remember, setting the right priority is not enough. I need to translate them into clear goals that are addressed for the right priority. In addition, the goals shall not be perfect goals. Rather, think what is good enough goals or threshold that satisfy the priority. 

It is not easy but let’s do it by constantly asking God for direction and strength to do this.