Recently I learned that a lot of tasks that I have come from myself. 10 years ago maybe I have a considerable amount of tasks from others. Now that I have learned to say no at some contexts, it is time to look at how I generate additional tasks to myself.
One common area is that I become middle man for free. The middle man can be in many forms. For example, I want to represent my company or my church by replying or making sure that they are well represented in some forum. No one asked. It is just me having some standard as if their wellbeing depends on me while they actually don't.
Another example is that when others want to say feedback. I sometimes can't take it when others have something to say but do not dare or do not want to say it. This is the time where I have the urge to become a bridge.
The previous example can be extended even more extreme where I try to become the bridge between a person and himself. What I mean is that sometimes the person say yes to certain task or responsibility beyond his capability and I want to stop it. I want to become the bridge between his desire and his ability. The problem is that it is not in my place and it is not realistic to do that.
Given this reflection, I need to remember that there is no need to dwell too much on what I have done. What I have is the present. Learn from mistakes and move on. And relax, the world doesn't depend on me.
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