Today one of my best friends shared his regret of not taking PhD after his master. I then told him what is stopping him from taking PhD now. I argued that unlike now, it was common to take PhD after a considerable amount of years in the industry. He then replied that it is difficult in terms of financially and also in terms of the perseverance to complete. I continued to argue that it is possible to look for chances such as research officer and part-time PhD. Or to stay in our company and do PhD as a part of university collaboration.
He then reminded me that the reason he listened to my pushy statements is so that I can see how I often become positive to others. As in I try to find the positive of everything and to encourage. So he asked me what is stopping me from being positive to myself.
That was really apt. This evening I complained to him that I felt of not being able to implement what I learn. So I am reluctant to learn new things. He then asked me what is stopping me from implementing the statistical knowledge I learned during my PhD. I made an excuse by saying that I could not do the programming required to implement and I could not find people who are willing to do that or work together with me without me needing to pay him or to reward him with something.
So the question, why not I argue with myself. For example, I can say it is not yet but I could do it with high chance if I persevere and practice often. Just like the machine learning case. I already felt that I could not do it or implement it. But just I said to him there is a chance no matter how low it is, there is also a chance for me to finally be able to code comfortably.
In the midst of that, I will also need to encourage myself with positivity. For example, I now feel tired after doing one by one and just want to take a rest. So why not take the chance to be positive. For example, I can be grateful that it is a sign to remind me to take a break. Or it is too make sure that I do not overcommit in other things.
So, let’s learn to be positive with myself and continue to acknowledge that only in Jesus that I can rely on and surrender all.
He then reminded me that the reason he listened to my pushy statements is so that I can see how I often become positive to others. As in I try to find the positive of everything and to encourage. So he asked me what is stopping me from being positive to myself.
That was really apt. This evening I complained to him that I felt of not being able to implement what I learn. So I am reluctant to learn new things. He then asked me what is stopping me from implementing the statistical knowledge I learned during my PhD. I made an excuse by saying that I could not do the programming required to implement and I could not find people who are willing to do that or work together with me without me needing to pay him or to reward him with something.
So the question, why not I argue with myself. For example, I can say it is not yet but I could do it with high chance if I persevere and practice often. Just like the machine learning case. I already felt that I could not do it or implement it. But just I said to him there is a chance no matter how low it is, there is also a chance for me to finally be able to code comfortably.
In the midst of that, I will also need to encourage myself with positivity. For example, I now feel tired after doing one by one and just want to take a rest. So why not take the chance to be positive. For example, I can be grateful that it is a sign to remind me to take a break. Or it is too make sure that I do not overcommit in other things.
So, let’s learn to be positive with myself and continue to acknowledge that only in Jesus that I can rely on and surrender all.
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