During the conference last month, I met my Italian friend. When I said my struggle of too many things to do, she reminded me again the importance of saying no. Her argument is that by saying no, we can actually help others more than we say yes.
For example, if we are already busy and we say yes, there is a possibility that we cannot help optimally or even may not be able to help at all due to time constraint. So by saying no, we can actually help others better as they could receive what help they need in a timely manner.
There was also an example I still remember. I was asked to share a simple task of sharing knowledge. But I decided to decline it as I was down and I was even not able to manage my own task. At the end apparently it gave the chance to my other colleague who was eager to try to share the knowledge to others.
So it is okay to say no. Refer to others quickly. Learn to say no to ourselves too. For example, I put the tasks of finding printers to my manager and he found it faster. I was not sure whether a printer can be borrowed and therefore I sent e-mail to connect those who are interested and those who have the printer.
This is important especially at this stage when I am positive. I need to ensure when I say yes to something, I don’t neglect my own need. Of course if it is beneficial, it is ok to take. But at the same time, let’s continue to have a new mindset that saying no can be the best way to help others.
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