Recently there is more feedback that I use too much analogy or try correlating things too much. It is something to be thankful that I am now feeling positive. But overdoing something is still not good regardless. So the question now is what is the problem I have, the possible reasons behind that, and the possible improvement I can make.
There are at least three problems when I give examples or analogy too much or correlate things too far. First, it wastes time. I can use the time to say other more important thing or even to rest talking or writing. Second, it confuses people. Even it may put off people from understanding and accepting the main point because they do not agree with the analogy/example/correlation. Third, it does not meet the original objective of making an analogy or example or correlation which are to illustrate or to provide more supporting data for the main point. In the contrary, feedback from people have shown that it is bringing negative impacts instead of helping reinforce the main point.
If I ask myself deeper, the possible reasons I do that is because of my fear of being rejected or being misunderstood. I am afraid that if I just say the main points, people will reject them. So I am trying too hard to make up for examples to support the main point. I am also afraid that I could not say things succinctly or choose the main takeaways correctly. So I try to explain in detail. What kind of improvements I can make. First, remember the main points. Second, be confident, it is okay to make mistakes in choosing the main point or if people do not understand. Believe that God is with me and He will help in ways that I may be unable to think of. Third, reduce the correlation. Remember that the correlation itself is arguable and may invite unnecessary debate. Fourth, if more data is really needed, focus on the main points and the relevant data, analyze more or think more rather than introducing new data or examples. In summary, recognize that my examples and correlation now has brought more negative than positive. Acknowledge the fear which becomes the driving factor for doing that. Then improve by saying things concisely and focus on building insights from the relevant data instead of adding new data.
If I ask myself deeper, the possible reasons I do that is because of my fear of being rejected or being misunderstood. I am afraid that if I just say the main points, people will reject them. So I am trying too hard to make up for examples to support the main point. I am also afraid that I could not say things succinctly or choose the main takeaways correctly. So I try to explain in detail. What kind of improvements I can make. First, remember the main points. Second, be confident, it is okay to make mistakes in choosing the main point or if people do not understand. Believe that God is with me and He will help in ways that I may be unable to think of. Third, reduce the correlation. Remember that the correlation itself is arguable and may invite unnecessary debate. Fourth, if more data is really needed, focus on the main points and the relevant data, analyze more or think more rather than introducing new data or examples. In summary, recognize that my examples and correlation now has brought more negative than positive. Acknowledge the fear which becomes the driving factor for doing that. Then improve by saying things concisely and focus on building insights from the relevant data instead of adding new data.
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